Why Do I Get Sleepy Around My Partner?

It’s a common experience for couples to feel extra sleepy when they’re around each other. But why does this happen and what can you do about it? In this blog post, we’ll look at some of the potential causes of sleepiness in relationships and provide practical tips for managing it. 

Is it normal to feel sleepy around your partner?

It’s not uncommon for couples to feel unusually tired around each other and even to fall asleep. This may be due to our bodies releasing certain hormones when we experience extreme joy or sadness, such as oxytocin (the ‘love hormone’) or serotonin (the ‘happiness hormone’). These hormones can make us feel physically and emotionally exhausted, leading to feelings of sleepiness. Additionally, if we spend more time together than we do with other people, we may begin to take our relationship for granted, causing us to feel less energized when together. 

Why do I get sleepy around my partner?
Why do I get sleepy around my partner?

What does it mean when you feel sleepy around your boyfriend / girlfriend?

When people are together, their bodies release hormones that can have an effect on how they feel. For example, when you are with someone you love, your body releases oxytocin which is associated with feelings of love and closeness. Similarly, when you are sad or angry, cortisol is released which can make it very difficult to concentrate and be productive. Both of these hormones have been linked to feeling more tired than usual after spending time with a partner. 

Another factor could be that couples who spend a lot of time together may naturally become more relaxed in each other’s presence. This can lead to increased sleepiness as the body feels less stressed when it’s around someone it trusts and loves. Finally, couples often spend more time together than with other people which can also contribute to feeling extra tired when they’re together. 

Let’s explore some of the reasons you might be feeling sleepy around your boyfriend or girlfriend:

Good reasons why you feel tired around your partner

Happy hormones

The first reason why you may feel tired around your partner is because of the hormones released when you are together. When you experience strong emotions such as happiness or love, your body releases hormones that can make you feel exhausted. This is the same kind of exhaustion you might feel after doing something fun and exciting like going on an adventure or going dancing with friends. It’s a good kind of tired, caused by happy hormones! 

You might find yourself falling asleep around your partner due to a serotonin surge. Serotonin is a chemical in the brain that helps regulate your mood and energy levels. When we spend time with someone we love, our bodies release more serotonin which can make us feel happy and relaxed. This can lead to feeling overly sleepy because our brains think it’s time to rest and recharge. 

When you feel secure you can actually end up feeling drowsy because your brain tells your body that it is safe to fall asleep. Your brain releases hormones to help you sleep and you feel deeply happy and also fall asleep faster.

When we are around someone we care about, our bodies often release dopamine which is a neurotransmitter that helps regulate feelings of pleasure and happiness. This dopamine rush can often lead to feeling overly sleepy because the body is trying to maintain a balance between alertness and relaxation.

These feel good hormones can make us feel deeply happy and also be emotionally draining – making us feel drowsy!

Love hormones

Oxytocin is often referred to as the “love hormone” or “cuddle chemical” and it plays an important role in our everyday lives. It is released when we are around someone who makes us feel safe and secure, such as a romantic partner, and it can lead to a feeling of contentment. But did you know that oxytocin can also make you feel tired? Here’s how.

The release of oxytocin around our partners causes us to experience something called “pair-bonding behavior”. It can be triggered by physical touch or even just being close to someone we love. This means that when we cuddle up with our partner, our body releases oxytocin which triggers an urge within us to become more monogamous and devoted. This actually creates a chemical bond between us and our boyfriend or girlfriend.

During this time, we start to relax more deeply and become more content which can cause us to feel sleepy or drowsy. This is because the hormone works on the nervous system as an inhibitory neurotransmitter, reducing stress levels in the body and calming us down so that we can rest for longer periods of time – hence why being near your partner might make you want a nap!

It’s not only the act of physical contact with another person or the presence of oxytocin itself which contributes towards our fatigue – research has shown that elevated levels of dopamine and serotonin are also involved! When combined together with other hormones like estrogen or prolactin, they create a sedative effect which reduces alertness thus making it easier for us to fall asleep faster than otherwise possible.


Another reason why you may feel sleepy around your partner is that being in close physical proximity to someone you love can be very relaxing. When we are near our partners, our bodies release hormones that make us feel safe, supported and connected. We are able to relax into the moment, knowing that everything is alright and that we are taken care of. This physical and emotional comfort can help us to let go of stress and tension, allowing us to finally drift off into a peaceful sleep.

Relaxing activities can often make us feel drowsy. For example, relaxation is one reason why you feel sleepy when you draw.

Spending quality time

The final reason why you might feel sleepy around your partner is due to the quality of time spent together. When couples spend a lot of time together, it can be difficult for them to stay focused or energized as they become more comfortable with one another. This can lead to “zoning out” and feeling tired, which can often happen when we are with someone that brings us a lot of joy.

All in all, there are many reasons why you might feel sleepy around your partner such as the release of hormones like oxytocin, dopamine and serotonin or the physical relaxation brought about by spending quality time together. Whatever the reason, it’s important to remember that being near your partner is a sign of safety, security and love – all of which can help you feel relaxed and content. So next time you start to doze off around them, just know that it might be because they make you feel safe and secure – and that’s a beautiful thing!

Read also: Why does kissing make you tired?

Bad reasons why you feel tired around your partner

Stress hormones

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by your relationship and constantly fatigued, chances are stress hormones are at play. Stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline can be triggered when we feel out of control in our relationships or become overwhelmed with feelings of love and attachment. If you are arguing a lot or your partner makes you feel stressed then chances are these hormones are taking an emotional toll on your body, and leaving you feeling sleepy.

This fatigue can manifest itself in physical symptoms like headaches and nausea as well as mental exhaustion such as difficulty concentrating or an inability to relax. If this sounds familiar to you, consider talking to a therapist about ways to manage your stress and build healthier coping mechanisms for your relationship-related anxieties. 

Read also: Why does crying make you tired?


It’s easy to get into a rut with your partner if you don’t actively work on keeping things fresh and exciting. Boredom often sets in when couples don’t take the time to nurture their connection or plan interesting activities together beyond just watching TV on the couch or going out for dinner every now and then. If monotony is getting in the way of enjoying time with your partner and you start to feel bored around them, make an effort to brainstorm ideas for fun activities that both of you will enjoy doing together—from playing board games to trying new restaurants in town—and commit to doing them on a regular basis! 

If you want to know more about this, read our post on how boredom makes you tired.

Not enough sleep

One of the most common reasons why couples feel tired around their partner is that they’re not getting enough sleep. This can cause issues in your relationship because when you’re tired, it’s harder to focus on conversations, show kindness towards each other, and make decisions. If you’re struggling with sleep deprivation, try implementing regular bedtime routines like turning off all electronics an hour before bedtime and avoiding caffeine late in the day. 

Lack of communication

A lack of communication can lead to feelings of exhaustion when around your partner. Couples who don’t communicate adequately may find themselves feeling frustrated or resentful when trying to solve issues that could be easily addressed through open dialogue. To help improve communication between partners, try scheduling regular check-ins throughout the week where both parties can talk about their needs and feelings without fear of judgment or criticism from the other person. 

Negative emotions

Negative emotions like anger, sadness, or jealousy can also lead to feeling drained when around a partner. It’s important for couples to recognize these emotions in themselves and discuss them with their partner in order to come up with healthy ways of managing them together. Some techniques for managing negative emotions include deep breathing exercises, mindfulness meditation, and seeking professional help if needed. 

Read also: Why can’t I sleep without my partner?

When you should worry about feeling sleepy around your loved one

What is a toxic relationship? 

A toxic relationship is any relationship where one or both partners consistently struggle with unhealthy behaviors such as criticism, manipulation, dishonesty, or disrespect. This type of behavior often creates an environment of mistrust, fear, and anger that can quickly spiral out of control and lead to depression and anxiety in both partners. 

Signs you might be in a toxic relationship

If you’re feeling drained after spending time with your partner, it could be a sign that something isn’t right in your relationship. Other signs include frequent arguments and criticism from your partner; being belittled or seeking approval from them; feeling like you can never do anything right; not being able to have an honest conversation without it escalating into a fight; or feeling like the other person isn’t listening to you at all. If these sound familiar, there’s a good chance that your relationship has become toxic and it may be having a negative impact on your mental health. 

How to address the issue

The first step is to talk about it with your partner. It can be difficult to have this conversation but it’s important that you do if you want the relationship to improve. Explain how their behavior is making you feel and be sure to listen actively when they respond. It may take some time for things to change but if both parties are willing to put in the effort, then the relationship can become healthier in no time! Additionally, if the problem persists then consider speaking with a therapist who specializes in couples counseling–they can help facilitate a productive dialogue between both partners and provide helpful tools on how to create a healthier dynamic moving forward. 

Managing sleepiness in relationships

Although it is common for couples to feel sleepier when they are around each other, there are ways to manage this issue so that both partners remain happy and productive.

One way is for both partners to make sure they get enough rest during the night so that their energy levels remain high during the day.

Exercise is also important as regular physical activity helps reduce stress levels and increases energy levels throughout the day.

Additionally, spending time apart can help ensure both partners remain energized while still being able to enjoy quality time together whenever possible.  

Finally, engaging in activities like going on a walk or playing board games can help keep both partners alert and engaged while still having fun together. 

Conclusion: Why you feel sleepy around your significant other

It’s normal for couples to experience sleepiness when around each other due to biological responses such as hormone production and increased time spent together. However, this doesn’t have to be a negative thing; getting good rest is important for overall health and well-being, so if feeling extra sleepy around your partner helps you relax and get better quality sleep then embrace it! Feelings of security are a key sign of healthy relationships; take pride in knowing that both of you can experience strong emotions without fear of judgment or rejection from one another.  

Sleepiness in relationships is very common but there are ways for couples to manage this issue if needed. By ensuring both partners get enough restful sleep at night, exercising regularly, engaging in activities together, and spending quality time apart from each other whenever possible, couples should be able to find a balance between feeling energized and having quality time together without feeling overly tired all the time. With these tips in mind, couples should be able to live happily despite any potential fatigue caused by being around each other!

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